Sometimes life will just sneak up and remind you, that YOU aren’t always in control of everything, and you might need to slow down, step away, disconnect, and "circle the wagons" of your life.
For most of us, when something happens, we have to take the time to watch the dust settle. This is so we can evaluate what our next move is going to be. It’s when the dust is landing like shrapnel that remembering to duck and cover is vital.
How do you do this?
I press into the tool box of my coping skills. This is imperative for me. I am a tactician; I believe God has given me quite a tool box filled with many tools. Some, He just gave me. Some, He empowered me to grow myself. Doing this is not just about surviving my life but choosing to thrive along with surviving it. I think what that means is finding joy, peace, and healing. Allow me with honor, to share what I have observed. Here are some tools from my tool box for you. Take what you will.
I remember as a young child visiting my father in the North during the winter time. I would go outside during ‘’the blue hour” when there was snow on the ground and take a little journey by walking down his driveway when I needed to step away. I would feel the cold creeping into my heavy coat as I stood just far enough away to take in the cold blue color of the evening. I would look deeply into the buttery warm light, coming from the windows. My eyes would follow this warmth to see my father sitting at the table like a sentinel.
I would do this when the dust was settling and when I needed to step away. This was something that I could hang my perspective on.
The ability to step away is powerful. Knowing when to come back is as important as well. I think this simple tool is so overlooked; this tool gives me some space to process and gain some perspective. This was one of the first I remember using. I think it’s is one that comes fairly natural for most people.
This is where clarity can come and rise up from the confusion of life. I still have my small journeys here and there in order to step away and wait. Have you ever stepped outside at a party to get a breath of fresh air? You don’t need a party to do this.
One my favorite places to go, was lost in Hurricane Katrina in 2005. It was called “Dock of the Bay.” It was on the beach in Bay Saint Louis, Mississippi. The nicest family, Jerry Fisher, from Blood Sweat & Tears, owned it with his wife, Melva. I didn’t know them for their fame, but for their kindness. I just liked them as a family. Melva’s mother taught me how to weave pine needle baskets. Her people were from there.
While there was always great music playing and food cooking, I could feel the world spinning by as I watched the sail boats and shrimp boats on the edge of the Bay go by. People lived, played, and worked on the water.
I would ride my horse along the beach and rest under their deck. Cool water was provided along with some French fries, and we would just be fine. The dust would naturally settle.
Being able to be present with yourself is a core tool. Can you sit down without having to jump up? Sometimes taking a moment to breath deep helps me do this…this is why I say…
Breathing Deep with you and still Learning- J.D. Jackson.