Lanterns: LGBTQ: Self-Centered Bullies


LGBTQ: Self-Centered Bullies

The thing that rubs me the wrong way about the LGBTQ movement, is how incredibly self-centered they come across. My gay friends may disagree with me, as they often do, but they also know I'm not homophobic; I tell it the way I see it, and I try to be fair to all sides. The way I see a lot of these people is selfish and obnoxious.

I was just flipping through my Facebook newsfeed, and I watched a video of an 8-year-old drag queen somewhere in Europe, whose parents fully endorse and support this overtly sexualized, and completely age inappropriate lifestyle, for their son. This was followed by a video tutorial on why it's important to various representatives of the alphabet soup brigade to be addressed with their proper pronouns.

To the gay community and the rest of the groups you've aligned with, this kind of nonsense does not further your cause. For most of us living our lives, raising our kids, and working toward our goals, the constant barrage of scoldings, protests, and perverse displays is just not something we want in our faces all the time. I'm convinced that most of us don't want to know, or care to see, anything which concerns anyone else's sexual proclivities. You do your thing, I'll do my thing; this is how it is for the majority of your countrymen. I'm sorry to disappoint, but we really aren't that into you. We like you just fine, but when 5% of the population demands the rest of us immerse ourselves in their vision of America, it's just a tad too much. Especially when the freakish fringes of the movement are the loudest, the most disgusting, and the most outrageous in your parades and protests.

I’ve noticed a particular obsession with vaginas. What’s up with that? I’ve seen them as nail art, hats, cookies and candy, and wall art. I have no interest in seeing vaginas all about, just as I don’t want to see penises on display. People have no shame anymore, and that’s not a good thing. I do not understand the constant sexualization of all things. What do you all think you’re accomplishing by continually foisting this imagery on the general public? I really feel for parents. My kids are grown, but those with small children (some of you, I’m sure) are fighting an uphill battle to let kids be kids. That’s really sad and unfortunate on so many levels.

You get more flies with honey than vinegar, that's a fact. Maybe you should try toning down the rhetoric perhaps? Also, instead of banning conservatives and Jews from your parades, which, by the way, is completely incongruent with your whole diversity and inclusiveness narrative, maybe you need to be banning the fringe elements of your movement, which serve only to repulse people. If you want to let the freakish be your poster children, you’ll have to expect some staring, and some backlash, though it seems you relish the disapproval you get; it fuels the bloodlust for the “other-thans” not included in your group.

I've known a lot of gay folks in my years. I've never had a problem with any of them, and I feel fortunate to call some of them friends. For the most part, they're just regular people living a regular life. There's no way for me to "walk in their shoes," or to feel as they do, regarding the way they are treated in the world. I believe, however, their lot has improved dramatically in the last ten years. You're just like the rest of us except you're gay. I don't condone poor treatment of anyone, and it's abhorrent that there are people out there who want to beat you up or ridicule you. I believe, for the greatest majority of you, you just want to know you're free and safe to live your lives and pursue your happiness. I believe in my heart, that is what most of us want for you as well.

Regrettably, there will always be hatred in the world, and there will always be a small group of jerks who seek to cause trouble. We all suffer with them, not just you. Every group is hated by someone, and it can be difficult and frightening out there on Main Street, USA. Please understand, however, you have a lot of folks who will stand with you. Even people who don't necessarily endorse your lifestyle, do not want to see you harmed in any way. Sadly, I see you turning the wrath on others, and I didn’t think you wanted to be perceived that way. To many, it just looks as if you’ve become bullies. Bullying is never right; the ends don’t justify the means. You’ve become the hate filled jerks, and frankly, you scare me because you are like bulldozers. You don’t care about anybody who might be caught up, as collateral damage, in your pursuit of what you want.

You must know that when your parades are full of "in-your-face" sexual perversion, that's who people think you are. These weirdos love to stir the pot, they're the most flamboyant, and they show a sincere hatred for the other 95% of your countrymen. Generally speaking, I like weirdos, they're interesting and fun to be around, but sometimes they cross a line and conflict with regular American sensibilities. You really have to expect some raised eyebrows when they are whom you’ve chosen to represent you.

You've largely succeeded in bringing people around to your way of thinking, so much so, that many are now afraid to run afoul of you for fear of retribution. It seems you revel in destroying the lives of those who disagree with you. You’ve come a long way in a short amount of time. Maybe you could enjoy your newfound acceptance in society and give people a chance to come along at their pace. Nobody deserves to be bullied because they're not moving the cultural needle fast enough for someone else. You don’t like it. I try to live by the maxim: “Treat others as you would wish to be treated.” You have traveled over the bridge, reached many of your goals, and now it is you, the gay community, who need to keep this in mind if you truly believe in tolerance.

Written by Julie Custer

3 Responses

I need to chew on this before I reply... (did I just double-negative myself? I'm not sure what that does to the time-space continuum...where did I put my flux capacitor?... ) For the moment, I think it's sufficient to just say... another well-written and thought-provoking piece, Julie!

Dear, dear Sarah! To whom shall I write the check?

LOL Julie. I just saw this. You're so funny. :)

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