Sunshine Is The Best Medicine. They say some people bring sunshine to a room when they come in the room and others when they leave that room. Which one are you?
I had an unexpected answer to prayer a couple days ago. A friend of mine, whom I have known a very long time, had shared her distress regarding my political stance over the past election. She recently reached out to me after being “put in time out”. You see, she was upset that I would not vote for a woman, merely because she was a woman. She was aghast at my betrayal to the women of America. Our conversations had lost their charm. I could be discussing a piece old Samsonite luggage that I spotted at the antique mall and somehow her response would twist and turn to find her hatred about the outcome of the election in a nano second . It was fascinating to watch...at first. The acid would be dripping from her teeth like the monster in that Alien movie. Remember when the acid dripped through the metal floors? It seems that unkindness is dripping out of people’s mouths like this kind of acid. You know when you have been touched by it as well as when you spew it. It’s not pleasant either way. Fundamentally my friend is a good soul and has a heart of gold. She is in my holistic community and does a lot for those around her. She has had my six and I hers. I was taken aback when this woman fell for the narrative. Usually that alone would be all I needed to “Run, Forrest Run”, but we had history. I did eventually block her. No drama. Just sweet relief.
- I knew what I had been taught to do. I went to my “War Room”, and gave her and our friendship to God. I also began praying for her. I prayed for her needs to be met, for fear to leave her, and more specifically, that God would draw her close and heal her heart. Months later I received a simple yet heart-felt text message. It said. “I’m afraid I may have ‘alien’ated and hurt your feelings because of the differences in our political stances. At the end of the day, I love you more than politics. Big Love and Aloha, always, my sister.” The healing began. Sometimes we must teach people how to treat us. She got it. I believed she would find her way and she did.
The election is over, but drama is still resounding through many of our relationships. I have cut my losses on some of these relationships. I have begun to pray for these people. There are some I know He’s handling and there are some we are handling together. The time for mending fences has begun. I am now asking myself, did I bring “sunshine to the room when I left it”? Have I alienated anyone? I am not saying that it’s my fault every time there is an awkward moment or disagreement. What I am saying is that as a Christian I am going to keep my finger on the pulse and be aware of where I can sow love and the truth of my beliefs. I also ask myself three things before giving my thoughts to others. Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? That weeds out a lot! When emotions are part of the mix people usually speak from their wounds. By asking these questions, I stay on the straight and narrow and more importantly NOT part of the problem. It seems people are taking quite a bit of satisfaction in using acidic words and feeling like they won…but have we? Here is the bottom line. God is bigger than all this drama. Giving it to Him will de-stress my life and maybe yours. For that alone, I say Hallelujah! The more I held on to the drama, the more exhausted I became. He is allowing me the opportunity to grow and by teaching me to let go of that which does not support me and isn’t in my best interest. I will, with great deliberation make sure that I bring “Son”shine to a room upon entering. How else can we change one heart, one mind at a time? How else can we fix the machine?
Breathing deep and still Learning, J.D. Jackson