The Title of this article comes from a 1967 movie starring Elizabeth Taylor. The Taming of the Shrew was a movie about a difficult, opinionated woman who was finally tamed by the hero of the story.
Lets face it; we all have that shrew in us. Some of us a little. Some of us a lot. The Taming of the Shrew in You, therefore, is an article is about how you can tame that difficult woman in you.
I have often heard men complain “I was disrespected” or “she doesn’t respect me.” Men say this because men crave respect in the same manner women crave love in an intimate relationship. Let’s define the attitudes of respect. Choosing your words carefully when speaking or responding to a man denotes respect. Putting a man down never inspires him to change, or even to love you more. It is always better to treat him with respect by being mindful of his ego and of his intent. Speaking gently will always get you further than will berating him. Remember, this article is about how you should treat him. I will write about his responsibilities to you at a later date, but for now, I will concentrate on how you can make your marriage better by respecting him.
A good life verse to apply in this case is Proverbs 15:1 (KJV), "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."
Sometimes we ladies think we can get our man to act if we just badger him. Look up the word "badger" and you will get the true meaning of what it is that you're doing to your spouse. The word "badger" comes from the French word "becheur" meaning "digger" and is extremely appropriate. We just dig, and dig, and dig at our spouses and then expect them to pour their affections out for us. It’s not going to happen. A man who feels badgered feels disrespected and unloved. He is not likely to show you the affection you crave or make the changes you are asking of him. It always amazes me when I see women constantly having the same argument with their spouse about the same thing. I think to myself, this is obviously not working. Maybe it’s time she tried something else.
Have you heard the saying, “you get more with honey than vinegar?” Try some sweetness. Speak to him with respect and for heaven’s sake do not yell and scream. Because when you do, you have lost the argument. He will not listen. Yes, it is true men sometimes have to be asked several times to do something before they do it, how you ask is what makes the difference. A man is more likely to respond if, on the third time, you have had to ask him, you kindly say, “Honey, please. I really do need this done today. Can I count on you?” You might be thinking that saying those words just aren't your personality. But I am here to tell you that if you fake it til you make it, it will become you.
Another good life verse is Proverbs 21:19 (KJV): "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." The definition of a contentious woman is also defined in Proverbs 27:15 (KJV): "A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike."
Try these two things for a month and see the difference in your marriage. He will react like never before. If you want to ask a question or pick a topic you would like me to cover, please leave a message on my Girl Gives Advice facebook page. I will do my best to help.