Change is the price of progress, and it isn’t always the easiest thing for us to embrace. I know that I want to be the very best version of me that I can be, and that starts with my willingness to endure changes so that I can progress. To refresh the ideas, I’ll post the first three points here before I conclude with the last point in this series.
- Realize that you are not always right.
- Express yourself.
- Lose the rose colored glasses.
Lastly, but certainly not the least,
- Build your confidence.
Jer 17:7 says, "Blessed is a man who trusts in the Lord, whose CONFIDENCE is in Him."
Surround yourself with people who build you up versus those who would tear you down. If you're in a situation with a family member who tends to do that, take a stand, and refuse to let them tear you apart. If you have a family member, like I do, who you will never be able to please, keep that in a compartment of your mind, and bring it to the forefront when you feel overrun by them.
It took me my entire life, but I finally had the confidence to stand up to the bully in my family. It was as if my confidence was derived from her support or something. I’m not sure what happened. I don’t know if I just matured and was able to finally shrug her off, but while she was in my home over a Christmas holiday things blew up. She gnashed her teeth at me and tried to boss me. I cowered. I walked away, looked in the mirror at myself and said, “This is MY home. She cannot speak to me like that here (or anywhere for that matter). She cannot treat me like this. I have had enough.” I walked up to her and told her that she was not going to speak to me like she had just done or treat me like that anymore. I also said that if she had a problem with my decision, that she could leave my home until she calmed down and could treat me with respect.
I must say that I stood there shaking like a leaf about to fall off of the tree. When she left, I broke into tears because I simply wanted for her to be proud of me and love me for who I was. However, what I realized, was that no matter what she or anyone else thought, I had to be proud of who I am and love myself. My confidence soared. I conquered mountains that day by realizing that confidence came from within, not what others thought of me.
Several circumstances in life have left me questioning my own confidence. I have run into many situations where I felt like I was going to fall apart because I just didn’t have support, which made my confidence level drop.
I learned that I could relish in the fact that I am a child of the King! His child! He is where I must depend on getting the 'props.' If you wait for people to compliment you, you may find yourself waiting for a long time – if ever!
There is someone who comes to my mind right now who cannot give a compliment to me of any kind, and I really don't know why. I have learned to go with it, though. It doesn't really mean that my confidence should get shaken when it doesn't get boosted. I've heard there is a fine line between pride and humility - and being in front of people - that is a very difficult road to navigate!
I encourage you to find someone that you know will be honest with you and ask some difficult questions. Know your limitations. Be confident in your decisions. You will thank you! Any time that you're feeling insecure or that your confidence has been shaken, go back to Jer 17:7. The NLT reads: "but blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their HOPE and CONFIDENCE."
If you're having trouble being as confident as you desire, bask in His delight, and that will surely lift you up!